Monday, April 27, 2009

On Everything Else...

Yippeeeee!!!!....feels so good to be back on my page….I’ve been too lazy to blog, even been too lazy to drop comments on my favorite blogs. I‘ve been doing a lot of blog-trotting, believe me, there are lots of fabulous blogs in blogville. Kudos to y’all bloggers. Yes!, Original Mgbeks, you shattered my heart by deleting those lovely blogs on your blog roll (including mine ofcourse **fluttering eyes**) There were blogs I never bothered adding to my blogroll, I get to them through my favorite blogs (yeah selfish , I know…)

I have a lot on my mind , a lot of thoughts in my head and happenings around me, I hope I don’t stop halfway before I’m through, this thing called laziness ehn? is so alluring (Olufunke, this is why I’ve been MIA). Nywayz, let me get down to it. Remember like the children of Israel when they had tarried on the plains for so long and Moses told them it was time to move up?? That’s the way I feel now.. I feel some voice telling me it’s time to move up. And I feel so obliged to obey that voice, Up I am moving!

Like I narrated in my previous post, I’ve been back in my former unit for over a month now & really, things have changed. It’s never same returning to a place you used to be. For instance, if you left home for a while, traveled for business or to school , most times when you get back, things are usually not the same. It’s either Joy has matured some and is no longer the gullible 7 year old who would jump at your commands or she has shifted her attention on someone else other than you. Things are never the same. In the two years I was away from my unit on some project, a lot of things have changed. some people I left behind in the unit moved on to greener pastures, some got married, some had children,, some got new jobs, in two years. Anyway, I wasn’t exactly wasting myself those two years ‘cos I grew, got experience, got promoted, got promoted again., I was doing well for me but being thrown back to the same old unit leaves me wondering.… I guess I need to de-clutter my head of the way things used to be & just re-adjust to reality. Is the saying not true that goes – “Change is the only constant thing in life.

I am a classic example of “Miss Goody-Two-Shoes”. Sometimes I wish I wasn’t as nice as I am. I like making people feel good about themselves even at my own expense, I feel very bad when I know someone is sad or unhappy because of my action/attitude towards them & it’s made me an extremely polite & and courteous person. I look back at my life and see a couple of steps I’ve taken not for my sake, but to make someone else feel happy or pleased with themselves. Vee called me up Saturday morning to invite me for her hubby’s surprise party, I went for an all-night-church service the night before and was deep in sleep when I heard my phone ring. I ignored it, turned to the other side and switched the sleep to gear 5. The phone rang again. With tired frustration I picked it without looking at the screen. “Hello” I muttered yawning..”Hi it’s me Vee, it’s my husband’s birthday today, and im organizing a surprise party for him, I’d like you to come..bla bla blab la..” she kept on & on & begged me to show up. I nicely told her I was coming from an all-night long service & was still trying to catchup on sleep..”No…you must come oh!, u know you are my friend!”, Nyways, it ended with me agreeing to come but might be a bit late because I had another program planned for the day. Long &short of it, I ended up not making it, my program ended late & there was no way I could make it across town. I tried calling Vee on Sunday to apologise for not coming, she did not pick my call, called & called her two lines, sent text no response & I began to wonder, was she angry at me??: (1) I agreed to go not because it was convenient for me because her invitation notice was short but I was going to sacrifice my “long-awaited” Saturday for her just to make her happy (2) She wouldn’t do same for me if I was in her shoes. I feel so angry that she would even dare be angry at me!...I wish I had told her straight up there was no way I was going to make it. . It is always like that. It’s not as it it’s cool to abandon your friends and not be there for them when they need you., but it shouldn’t be at your own expense because the funny thing is the same person/people you try to please by making sacrifices for, throw it back at you in your face!, it’s as if the nicer you are, the more people take you for granted. Human beings are not worth it really, you’d never be able to please everyone.

Am I the only one who feels the year is running at light speed?...i need to catch up fast, 2009 must never pass me by! It’s gonna be a good week, I can see the signs already. Today’s Monday & I’ve got to de-clutter my desk, I wish I could continue, but I need to face work now before I am caught!

21 comments:

simeone said...

firstest....will be back

THIRTY + said...

Vee prolly just needs time to cool off.

simeone said...

had that same chat wiv a friend last weekend...the nicer you are ..the more people seem to throw it back at you...no biggie sha..
enjoyed ur post..so pls dont run off again :-)

Enkay said...

Aha! Welcome back!

Pele jare, I totally feel you. I usually would consider other people before myself but I'm learning to look out for me too!

Congrats on your promotion(s)!
Bobo biggs gels! lol!

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

welcome back, babe. Don't be mad at Ve. Firstly, you don't actually know that she is mad at you, right? Maybe something came up, not that she shouldn't have at least responded, but sometimes we assume the worst when if we just cooled down and ignored what we cannot change, we'd have less stress.

Secondly, it doesn't matter if she is mad at you, does it? You were going to do her a favor, but you couldn't. She will eventually understand, so don't stress yourself out.

=)

Good to read your post. See you around!

Olufunke said...

Welcome back!
Should we plan a e-welcome party?

Nice girl
Well,
AS I agree with solomonsydell, don't be mad at Vee, she will understand.

I find myself stretching myself to be very nice to people too, sometime they appreciate it, some other times people just ask for more or just simply use you.
but I remember 'do not be weary of doing good....you will be rewarded'
Learning to say I am doing this for God, (at least its counting in my account with God) and He always remembers
Congrats on your promotion!
plus I feel you on having to 'go back to the unit where you where before'
It would all work out for your good
Missed you .......
Cheers!

princesa said...

Vee has a right to be upset but i feel not taking ur calls is taking it too far.

sometime we just need to be upfront and tell our friends the way it is even when they wont like it. It saves the stress of apologizing later.

Beulah! said...

Thanks for commenting.

@Simeone, i tell u!, it is always like that. i don't know why. Thanks for loving my post anyaway

@30+, maybe she does, i hope she does cool off

@Enkay, Thanks Girl, i appreciate

@Solomonsydelle, thanks so much, i guess u are right, maybe i'm just over-reacting myself

@Olufunke, pls i wouldn't mind an e-party. Throw it for me if u can abeg..lol. Yeah, most times, even if i feel like being mean, i remember God and i chill knowing that watever im doing, im doing for God & not man

@Princesa, you are right. being upfront even if it will hurt helps sometimes. Thanks

Mimi said...

:) first time here!

funny thing is, you're bearing my name!!!!!! lol.

well not really. the second half, my pet name from God is Hephzibah :)

Nuggetzman said...

na so life be....when u're always dia 4 sm1, d person just takes it 4granted until u learn to say NO...cos to decline to help sm1 sometimes provides u d backbone to make dem cherish u more than ever...so get angry if u can, but don't let her attitude control u...4 u'v d right to not always oblige ur friends...and feel free to let them know w/o having to pander to their emotions...

Begin to learn how to say NO

BSNC said...

Congrats on your promotion.

Well its not your fault. they is so much one can do. You can't please everybody..

have a lovely week

QMoney said...

ehen,so its cos of people like u,they call people like me "not nice" abi??lol
anyway,the truth is i wont have agreed on the phone and if she had continued I'd have told her am sleeping now,will call back when i wake up.......
i recently stopped been all lovey dovey with my friends cos they wouldn't do half of the things i do for them for me so why bother?
there's nutin like abandoning here joo,how an someone call u in the morn and expect u not to have serious plans?its not fair now.
funny enuf,i dont think d year is running fast enough.right now,i cant wake for this month to end.....*wink,wink*

Original Mgbeke said...

Beulah, my sis abeg no vex jare. But now you have a blogroll so I can visit my peeps via yours. LOL
This Vee chick is tripping, can you imagine? Some people sha! You have to make time for yourself and learn to say no sometimes, if they don't like it then oh well. Sometimes in the race to put other people first, we forget our own needs.

exschoolnerd said...

congrats on getting promoted dear!!! really happy for u!

i think u should just give vee sometime...dont think she shud have acted that way though..not picking ur calls and all..i also feel i am'too nice' and people tend to tk dt for granted...

Beulah! said...

@Mimi...yay!!, im hephzibah too..lol, we are true namesakes

@Nuggetzman..thanx so much for dat 1derful piece of advice, i have to learn to say NO!, it pays finally.

@BSNC..thanks babes, God has truly been faithful

@Qmoney..hahhaa..lol..oh!, i wish i was like u, no nonsense person!...u very funny, thanks babes. From my end here, d year is speeding oh!

@Original Mgbeks...Yelz oh!, u r welcome to my blogroll, i no selfish..lol. U r right, i need learn to say no when it is not convenient

@Exschoolnerd...girl thanks o jare!, we are in this nice nice thing together ehn?...ee nor easy

tobenna said...

Um, I'm really not sure what the problem is here with your friend.... but I find it perfectly normal that she'd be upset you didnt show up after you said you would.
She's not picking up your phone. Thats bad. But not bad enough for you to rethink you friendship.
Its a very small thing and I'm sure it'll end amicably.

Truthfully, this year's doing a Usain Bolt on me too...
Come back soon...
Its 2wks already!

NigerianDramaQueen said...

Don't let people stop you from being your nice self...just don't allow anyone take advantage of you...just give Vee time to chill out...I've learned that most disputes can be resolved with proper communication!

tobenna said...

Tricia Beulah!
Update!

Writefreak said...

I really feel this post Beulah cos i am like that a lot of times. I'm glad you did what whas best for you.

Let Vee cool off and she'll come round, I don't think she has a right to be angry though...

COngrats on your promotion! When we go wash am?

QMoney said...

we should start asking people to pay if they havnt updated after a week....lol

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